• Forest for the Trees
  • THE FOREST FOR THE TREES is about writing, publishing and what makes writers tick. This blog is dedicated to the self loathing that afflicts most writers. A community of like-minded malcontents gather here. I post less frequently now, but hopefully with as much vitriol. Please join in! Gluttons for punishment can scroll through the archives.

    If I’ve learned one thing about writers, it’s this: we really are all alone. Thanks for reading. Love, Betsy

Did You Write the Book of Love

One topic I have avoided over three years of blogging is self publishing. Here is a link to the 2011 self-published bestsellers. Has anyone read any of these? Has anyone self-published?  I’m all for it, even if it cuts out the middle man, ahem. Getting your work out there is all that matters. Finding readers. And it looks like at least these folks have figured out a way to monetize. Other things this blog endorses:  self-love, self-loathing, selfishness, self-centeredness, Will Self, self-cleaning, self- absorption and self-satisfaction

Are you tempted to self-publish?  How do you want it to go down?

If I Knew The Way I Would Take You Home

For me it was under the stairs. With a satin-edged blanket, a chenille throw pillow, and an abandoned lamp with a makeshift shade. I first stole away from the world to write in that crawlspace beneath the stairs in a faux leather diary with gold stamping and a small lock. I mostly recorded things I hated: mustard, hebrew school, my friend Carolyn’s father, sharing a bedroom with my sister etc.  From there I went on to headier subjects like my love of hotdogs or to recount the latest advance or retreat in the acorn wars against the Frankel brothers. For some reason that I couldn’t begin to understand, I needed to write stuff down. And needed to keep secret.

How old were you when you started writing and what, if you remember, did you say?

Like Some Heroine

I’m in Miami and I’ve been skateboarding all day in my silver lyrcra unitard, so forgive me if this post is brief but I’m really tired. I went up and down the beach and people are reading. They’re reading Steve Jobs bio and Girl in a Dragon Hairdo. I love watching people read. If I had bigger balls, I’d go up to each one and ask what they are reading and why. And I would assemble the most amazing body of research that helped explain why it is that people need stories so desperately and why certain stories draw them in.

Tell me, what book are you reading right now and why. If you would.

Your LIfe LIttle Girl Is An EMpty Page

Hi, I’m Jeremiah Walton.  I am 16 and live and in New England.  I am manager of Nostrovia! Poetry (http://www.nostroviatowriting.com), a website for poets and writers to share their writing, read articles, and for me to share my writing.  It has a Guest Blog and weekly free poetry contest for people to enter.  I was wondering if you would be willing to provide a link to me from your website.  Thanks for hearing me out. – Sincerely Jeremiah Walton

I get these sorts of requests all the time, but never from Walton’s mountain. WHen I was sixteen, I was writing bad poems about masturbation. I actually wrote a poem and misspelled masturbation as “masterbation.” My English teacher wrote in the margin, “Dr Freud?” Then, he asked me to come see him in his office. I went. All I can remember is feeling insanely uncomfortable and being totally grossed out by his beige leisure slacks. When I was sixteen, if a boy named Jeremiah asked for a date or some rolling papers, I would have probably died and gone to heaven. Is this kid for real? Should I give him a link? And what were you doing at sixteen, dear readers.

Another One Bites the Dust

Free fall. You know exactly what I’m talking about. Finishing something and getting first reads. I’ve given my script to the young turk from my film class, my literary agent, my writing partner and bff, and a former film executive. What’s that on my shirt? Oh, did I throw up? What is the biggest fear? It sucks. Duh. But more than that it’s the strong possibility that people will see things about me that are humiliating and that I thought I had successfully concealed or transformed. I think that’s why I was drawn to poetry as a depressed teenager. I thought that writing things that people couldn’t understand would protect me and allow me to express yourself at the same time.

How do you handle it?

No I Don’t Have a Gun

Saw my psychopharmacologist today for my tune-up. He actually referred to himself as a mechanic, said he looks under hoods all day. I can forgive the crappy metaphor given that he’s the only medical professional to correctly rewire my engine. Of all the chapters in The Forest for the Trees, the one people never talk about or write to me about is the one called “Touching Fire,” about depression, alcoholism, drug addiction and bi-polar illness in writers. THe chapter is largely drawn from Kay Redfield Jamison’s brilliant book on mental illness in writers in which she documents a disproportionately high rate of bi-polar illness in writers, in people with an artistic temperament. THough I struggled for the better part of fifteen years with manic depression, the last twenty years have been depression-free, free of manic episodes. The floor and the ceiling have remained fixed. I’m too smart to say I miss it.

Dear Lord of the Medicine Cabinet, thank you for my salmon tablets. THank you for my life. This is a tough season for people. If you’re not feeling well, get help. As a good friend of mine once said when I asked him if he was thinking about suicide, “Not me, honey, the light always changes.”  What about you? I’m thinking about you.

You Know You Can’t Hold Me Forever

When you sit down to write, to start something new, have you made a host of decisions such as point of view, tense, style, etc. or do you start writing and see what happens, see how it comes out? After all you can always revise. Do you plan your story, outline it, make index cards, jot notes on napkins, or do you set out into the forest and see what you find, hope for crumbs. Is the creative process enhanced or compromised by planning.

How do you roll?

All You Need is Love

I want to talk about being selfish, about being a selfish bastard, about boundaries and limits and the hard bark of an elm tree. I want to talk about waking up in a cold, empty house. Outside, gnarled gray branches electrified the sky. The plan is to work all day. Reading Poets & Writers to procrastinate, you see the face of a poet you once loved, followed to Baltimore; a failure in courage when you didn’t say hello. Later, a fruitless trip to Staples, forgetting the kind of toner you need, standing in the aisle like Ruth amid the alien corn. Can I help you, ma’am? Yes, dear man. Can you cover my body in toner and set it on fire? I spent the vacation writing. Writing!

I was hoping to do something new with the blog this year, to be positive and affirming and full of love, but I can’t. I can’t. I can’t and I won’t. Resolution: eat shit and die.

And your resolution? Whatcha got?

Everybody Had A Hard Year, Everybody Had a Good TIme. Everybody Had a Wet Dream, Everybody Saw The Sun Shine

Well, you know I like to end the year on a high note of pain and suffering, so please enjoy the last post of 2012 from our beloved west coast correspondent, the ever sunny Shanna Mahin . What can I say? This writing business can really kick your ass. Most people quit. And they might be on to something. But for those of us who need to keep scratching at the great wall of being and nothingness, you are not alone. At least not here at Mr. Roger’s neighborhood where the punch is spiked and the language is too. Have your self a merry fucking Christmas and survive the god damn new year. I hope I’ll see you back on January 2, 2012. Love, Betsy

AND NOW, HERE’S SHANNA:

The first shitty Christmas I remember was when my mother got drunk at the bowling alley on Christmas Eve and went home with some guy named Bob who looked like fat Elvis. I think I was seven. When I woke up on Christmas morning and she wasn’t there, I ate some Lucky Charms moistened with tap water and then I opened my present.

We didn’t have a refrigerator in our one-bedroom apartment, but we had a serious motherfucking tree. It was green and fragrant and it touched the cottage cheese ceiling. Priorities.

I got a Twirl-o-Paint set, which I’d been raving about ever since my father showed up for my birthday and took me to the Santa Monica Pier, where he and his girlfriend stuffed me full of cotton candy and let me play all the games, even the ones that cost fifty cents. I came home with a stomachache and the still-damp painting clutched in my sticky fist. I didn’t stop talking about it for weeks.

I had the whole thing assembled when my mother came in the door on Christmas morning, barefoot, with her stiletto heels dangling from one hand. Things went downhill from there.

I’ve told that story, in person and on paper, and with varying degrees of detail, for the past 40 years. I’m telling it here, now, because I feel like it’s my street cred for a big cliché I’m about to throw down, which is this:

Bah, humbug.

Fuck you, Santa, with your forced bonhomie and your egalitarian nature. The holidays suck. (And I’d like to say that if you’ve read this far and you’re mildly horrified by the turn this post is taking, then it’s probably time for us to part ways. No hard feelings. Go call your sister and tell her how much you love her and have a cup of eggnog and a Christmas cookie.)

The holidays are every writer’s nightmare. We’re the kind of folk who like to skulk around the periphery, and the holidays are so front and center. I don’t know what I was thinking when I chose December 18th as my wedding date. Now it’s just a cattle call of celebration: Thanksgiving, our anniversary, Christmas, New Year’s. Fuck me.

My husband and I just celebrated our first anniversary. The day before we left for our romantic Laguna Beach weekend, my husband told me (again) that he’s having a really hard fucking time with my weight gain and my unfinished manuscript. Newsflash: so am I, bro. I’ve been through 100 pounds, six years, four drafts, and 1.33 agents since I started writing this fucking memoir. And a partridge in a pear tree.

In Laguna Beach, there are twinkle lights on all the lamp posts, and if I see one more dog wearing antlers, I’m applying for a hunting license. I realize what white girl, middle-class problems I’m having, in case you were wondering. But, seriously, the holidays.

What’s the worst holiday story you have to tell? Don’t hold back. Misery loves company.

He Knows If You’ve Been Naughty

Look who came down the chimney for the penultimate guest post: our very own prince of darkness, quiet of late, but back in fine form  to spread some of that special love that only August knows how to serve up piping hot and with a side of bile. Enjoy!

What if we’re not that good?

What if that’s the problem? Maybe there’s nothing wrong with our query letters. Maybe our blog stats are great. Maybe our structure is passable and our dialogue works—but we’re still not good enough.

Maybe that’s why self-publishing starts making sense. Maybe that’s why we’ve bookmarked lists of rejection letters for famous novels—Cold Mountain, The Help, The Liar’s Club. Maybe that’s why agents tell us ‘lovely, but.’ Maybe that’s why editors don’t offer us $3,000 for a year of our lives: they offer nothing. Zero. Worthless.

And what if there’s no fixing that?

Do we improve as writers, after we hit our stride? Is The Plot Against America better than Portnoy’s Complaint? I think I’m getting better editorially—I see problems more clearly now—but as a writer, I’ve hit my peak. And my peak is apparently second-rate thrillers and LEGO tie-in novels.

That’s my question, this holiday season. What if you’re not good enough? Most of us aren’t. What if you’re not an exception to the rule? What if you’re nothing special? What if quiet desperation is the best you can shoot for

Prove me wrong.