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  • THE FOREST FOR THE TREES is about writing, publishing and what makes writers tick. This blog is dedicated to the self loathing that afflicts most writers. A community of like-minded malcontents gather here. I post less frequently now, but hopefully with as much vitriol. Please join in! Gluttons for punishment can scroll through the archives.

    If I’ve learned one thing about writers, it’s this: we really are all alone. Thanks for reading. Love, Betsy

We’re All Sensitive People

Hi Betsy,

My name is XXX, and I am reading and enjoying FOREST FOR THE TREES. I was surprised to find that you referred to the link between psoriasis and writing a few times in your book, especially in relation to John Updike’s reflection on the subject. I was just wondering if you or loved ones you know suffer from it, or what compelled you to include it in your book?  I am a psoriasis sufferer and a writer, and I’ve never before seen a reference to them in one place.

Sinerely, NAME WITHHELD

Dear Itchy:

Thank you for your letter. Updike’s piece about his psoriasis was a revelation to me. I had written a poem called “My Life as A Rash,” in graduate school. While I only briefly suffered from psoriasis’ ugly cousin exzema, I had the very strong suspicion that rashes were a big problem for writers. And after I started working with writers (first as an editor and later an agent), I saw that most writers enjoyed a wide array of physical symptoms (both real and somewhat hypochondriacal).  Skin eruptions were only one manifestation of a writer’s agony, though a particularly cruel and uncomfortable one given the “thin skin” and  necessary sensitivity of the writer. I’ve seen a lot of self-mutilation over the years, fingers that looked like bloody stumps. I’ve seen faces picked over, hair pulled out, massive weight gain and loss,  teeth grinding, migraines, back problems, OCD, agoraphobia, and insomnia. Show me a writer and I’ll show your someone who suffers either secretly or like John Updike, leaving flakes of skin in his wake.

Anyone  care to share their symptoms? The weirder the better.

You Would Cry Too If It Happened to You

Do my tits look really big in this shirt? Agh, getting ready for a dinner party. Eighteen people. A frighteningly high percentage of poets. Other brainiacs from the campus known as Yale. Maybe some day, in anticipation of a dinner party, I will feel and behave like a grown up, but not yet. Why do I want to have a tv dinner and watch Glee in my jammies?  My husband points out the networking possibilities. This is the exact wrong thing to say. Though I know he is right and I know that other agents would work the room like a square dance chain. Last night, in anticipation of the big event, I threw a shit fit over which water pitchers to use. My husband and daughter got really quiet and I knew crossed a line. It felt insanely good. One of my professors used to call parties enforced gaiety.

Does anyone really like parties? Anyone? Please tell me how much you hate them. Or the worst thing that ever happened at a party besides waking up in the bushes on Eastern Parkway with your bra in your jeans pocket and vomit in your hair.

What You Like Is In the Limo

Great quote in Harvey Pekar’s obit, “I always wanted praise and I always wanted attention; I won’t lie to you…I wanted people to write about me, not me about them.”

I think we are extremely ambivalent about praise and attention in this country. Everyone wants it, but it’s seen as craven to seek it too openly. There’s Pynchon on one of the spectrum and Paris Hilton on the other.

Are writers private people, uncomfortable with fame and spotlight? God knows, many are awkward as hell. Watch any writer on the Today Show and cringe. Writers are not actors. But at the same time, doesn’t some burning desire for attention, to be heard, go hand in hand with the act of writing. Or are they two separate endeavors?

I’ve tried to tease this out over a lifetime in publishing. I used to think the best writers were the worse self-promoters, and the best self-promoters were the worst writers. But it doesn’t hold up. Look at Dave Eggers, a terrific writer and a virtual marketing machine. Or Walt Whitman for that matter.

Are there brilliant works out there that will never see the light of day because the writer didn’t have it in him? Is wanting attention an intrinsic component in the act of writing?